Murders of Black Teens are up 39%

Happy Belated Holidays,

I know we've been on hiatus for quite a while, but between the holidays, work, and school we've been swamped. The headlines have been plentiful, and just when I was going to do a pointless post on the "Puff the Magic Negro" song, I came across this Wall Street Journal article on murder rates among Black American teens! It's outrageous. In case you don't have time to read the short article, here's the summary:
"Murders rose among black teens in 2006 and 2007 as overall homicides dropped compared with the previous year. And the 2000-07 rate of increase among black teens was more than twice the rate of increase among white teens, the study found. An overwhelming proportion of the killings involve black-on-black crime. James Alan Fox, co-author of the study, said the cuts in law-enforcement programs and activities geared toward youth disproportionately affect African-Americans because they are more likely than their white counterparts to come from communities where there is inadequate adult supervision, high rates of single-parent homes, inferior schools and widespread gang activity. "Cuts in support for youth have a much greater impact on black families who don't have alternatives," Mr. Fox said. "

Now, we can all blame the Bush administration for cutting programs that benefited underprivileged neighborhoods, but I must admit that since I've been on my own, I've done my best to stay away from the 'hood. Not because I'm in any way ashamed of where I've come from, but because it's depressing. I always wanted to be the person to go back and volunteer and start a non-profit to benefit my community, but I haven't done ANYthing since I left but benefit myself. I know that if we want change in our communities it starts with us.

Now don't get me wrong, I do not assume that all of you buppies came from the "urban mecca's" that are responsible for these despicable crimes, nor do I think that we should be the sole saviors of the black race (I mean parents and educators should share some responsibility, right?), but I do know that each of these communities would benefit if we donated some of our time and money to volunteering and giving back to children in need (through education and social organizations). I do not feel that the situation is hopeless. After this past year, neither should you. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING, is hopeless.

What are your thoughts? What are the causes for these numbers? What are some possible solutions? Do you still identify with these communities even though you may be living in an entirely different community? Do tell...


Oh Hell Yes: Tip Your Waitress, Boo!

Tipping...... ahh - I am a really fair tipper - by all means. 20% at least. 20% is always easier for me to calculate than 15%, so I take the easy route. Even when I get bad service, I leave a tip. There may have been approximately 5 times in my 28 years of living that I have walked out without tipping - for TRUE reasons of course..... check the tips AND please check the video at the bottom of the post. Damn! I miss true blood.

Tips on tipping:
At a salon: The standard amount for salon gratuity is 15% to 20% depending on the extent of the services, the skill of the stylist and whether or not you intend to frequent the establishment and the stylist again. Given all these factors are positive, you'll want to offer a tip in the 20% range. Don't overlook the people who shampoo your hair and those who get you coffee and magazines--they get at least a dollar for their services.
At a restaurant: Offer up 15% to 20% of your total bill. Keep in mind that the amount you tip reflects the total price before any coupons, gift certificates, etc. Just because you get a discount, does not mean that your server did not serve up the full order. If you are part of a party of more than 8 people, you should offer an amount closer to the 20% marker, if not more, depending on the needs of the guests in your party. If, for example, one of your guests insists on getting the salad dressing on the side, extra bread, more water and no avocado, then you definitely want to compensate the server who extended service to include these extras.

At a club or bar: Tip the bartender between 10% and 15% depending on the complication of your drink order. If you just order a beer in a bottle, there's not too much effort involved in providing the service, but if you order a mixed drink that takes time and includes a lot of ingredients, then offer up a more sizable tip, somewhere closer to the 15% range.

Transportation: Whether you hail a cab or take a limousine, you best offer a gratuity between 10% to 15% of the fare. If the drivers are particularly rude or unhelpful, give them the minimum. But if they are attentive to your travel needs and help you in any way beyond the norm, remember and thank them with a 15% or larger gratuity. If you use valet service at a hotel, restaurant or shopping area, offer the driver 10% for the service, but never give change. Another guideline is simply offering the attendant a back or two for the parking and retrieval of your car. And if you're traveling through an airport, and utilizing the aid of skycaps, offer a dollar per bag and up that amount if the bags are particularly heavy or large.

At a Hotel: It is standard to leave the maid a few bucks for tidying your room. If you have additional needs such as more towels, soap, an extra toothbrush, etc. thank the maid with an additional dollar or two. When checking in and out of a hotel, remember the bellhop with a gratuity of a dollar per bag, unless, once again, you have particularly large or heavy bags.

Check out the video:
Yeah - take that, take that.


Daily Prayer: "The Upper Class"

I cry. You cry.


Did anyone else see Keyshia Cole singing at the Oscar De La Hoya Fight last weekend? Please comment on the singing, wig, and ensemble. I have no words...

And have you seen "The Way it Is" (Keyshia Cole's Reality Show)? If not, enjoy the preview. Check out the fam (high-tech shit):

Real Housewives of Atlanta "NeNe" Evicted from Home

Daaaaaaang NeNe. Fox blew her WHOLE spot - damn...

Polls Show a Large Majority of Americans Approve of Barack Obama

I'm all smiles today after reading this article. We are on our way to progress! Story Here - Washington Journal


A Buppie Bailout Message, from "The Big 3"

Gotta click to enlarge - funny ish (depressingly funny, but funny nonetheless).

GM, Chrysler, and Ford are gangster - like literally.


Alum Shoutout: FAMU to Play in Obama's Inaugural Parade!

According to my sources, FAMU's Marching 100 was asked to play in the inaugural parade. Awesome news and I had to share. Yay! Ahhhh, how I miss undergrad...

Marching 100

Super Bowl


In the Name of...

May God Bless originality. Amen.


Daily Prayer: Is it okay to laugh??

What Would Jesus Do? lol


Quarterlife Crisis?

Ok, admission: I think I'm going through a quarter-life crisis. First of all, I'm feeling completely unfulfilled at work. On paper I'm doing well, but at the end of the day, the job is just unfulfilling and stressful. So what do I want to do? I have no idea. My passion is helping children through education. But teachers don't get paid nearly enough for me to even consider a career change. So today I decided to work from home and apply to some positions at the Bill and Melinda Gates foundation as well as the Oprah (Angel Network) Foundation. Wish me luck. I could really use a change.

Secondly, I think I'm finally getting to the age where I can see myself settling down with a family (*shudder*). Also stressful as I'm not really sure I'm ready. But luckily I don't have to make that decision anytime soon because "he" has not popped the question yet. But just to think of myself tied down with a husband a child makes me feel a bit old. And I don't like it. I don't know, I feel like I should have a bit more direction by now. Like I should've "lived it up" a bit more by now. Hmmm, what to do, what to do...

Oh, lately I've been feeling the need to do a little jet-setting and hit up a couple vacation spots just to escape, but guess what? We're in a damn recession so I should be saving money, right? Ugh. I chose the option a couple years ago (unknowningly) to either A - Buy a House, or B - Have a Life. Unfortunately, I chose A and I feel as though I'm forever tied to bringing in a certain income to pay a mortgage that I really don't need in an area I'm not sure I want to live.

I guess the word "forever" with any aspect of my life is my real fear. To work in a certain profession "forever", to be married to someone "forever", to live in a certain area "forever", to have kids that I have to take care of and love "forever" scares the shit out of me. Ahhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!! Lord help me...

Now back to watching Fraggle Rock and Reading Rainbow clips on youtube - that always makes me feel better. Peace Buppies.


Michelle Obama Defies Stereotypes

I get a little frustrated when every mention of Michelle Obama includes the fact that she's African American (as if we couldn't see that), but this story was much better than yesterday's article (sigh). Enjoy:


Confession: Guilty Pleasure

I don't know about you all, but I have a passion for trash tv.  Seriously - I am HOOKED to anything that is reality trash.  Am I embarrassed when I say I watch "Real Housewives of Atlanta?" Hell to the no.  My justification is that I work very very hard, study very very hard, and lead an easily stressful life.  I need balance! lol.  

In case you have been watching - my favorite is NENE.  I absolutely love her.  The other chicks..... bleh - but they are all entertaining.  The reunion is airing Tuesday - so you have your chance to catch up on all the insanity. Since I have so much work to do, I'm sure I'll find a way to procrastinate and watch the marathon leading to it.  

Check out the below clip of Bonnie Hunt & Niecy Nash spoofing Kim and Nene: 

Call him Mikaeel? Michael Jackson reportedly converts to Islam

What do you think?  I've heard about this several times over the years.  Since my opinion really matters on this - I will say that I'm happy MJ found something that makes him happy.


For the White Person Who Wants to Know How to Be My Friend

I just saw this poem on my new blog of the week "Stuff White People Do" and thought it came right in time for a particular co-worker of mine. Enjoy:

For the White Person Who Wants to Know How to Be My Friend

The first thing you do is to forget that i'm Black.
Second, you must never forget that i'm Black.

You should be able to dig Aretha,
but don't play her every time i come over.
And if you decide to play Beethoven--don't tell
me his life story. They made us take music
appreciation too.

Eat soul food if you like it, but don't expect me
to locate your restaurants
or cook it for you.

And if some Black person insults you,
mugs you, rapes your sister, rapes you,
rips your house, or is just being an ass--
please, do not apologize to me
for wanting to do them bodily harm.
It makes me wonder if you're foolish.

And even if you really believe Blacks are better
lovers than whites--don't tell me. I start thinking
of charging stud fees.

In other words, if you really want to be my
friend--don't make a labor of it. I'm lazy.

--Pat Parker [h/t: Angry Black-White Girl]

Your Weekly Address from President-Elect: Barack Obama


Al-Qaida's Response to Barack Obama's Win

Apparently, the terrorists aren't as in love with Barack Obama as I am. Ouch. According to this Yahoo article, they've decided to lash out and go completely negative against Barack Obama and other black leaders in the White House. I guess they didn't get the memo about Barack Obama's Muslim beliefs or terrorist associations (joke).

Well here's a small excerpt of what they had to say (particularly Ayman al-Zawahri):
"Al-Zawahri dug into U.S. racial history to try to directly knock down that belief and argue Obama will be no more sympathetic than white leaders to what the al-Qaida leader called "the oppressed" of the world.

He said Obama was the "direct opposite of honorable black Americans" like Malcolm X, the 1960s Muslim African-American rights leader, who is known among some in the Arab world and seen as a symbol of anti-imperialism.

Al-Zawahri also called Obama — along with secretaries of state Colin Powell and Condoleezza Rice — "house Negroes."

Full Article Here: Courtesy of Yahoo.


Introducing Eric Holder, US's new Attorney General

WASHINGTON (AFP) – US president-elect Barack Obama has named longtime lawyer Eric Holder to be attorney general, making him the first African-American ever in the post, US media reported Tuesday.

Holder, who served as deputy attorney general under former president Bill Clinton, will head the Justice Department, Newsweek magazine said, citing legal sources close to the presidential transition.

Obama's transition team did not immediately comment on the report.

"Obama offered Holder the job and he accepted," the magazine said on its website, adding that "the announcement is not likely until after Obama announces his choices to lead the Treasury and State departments."

Holder was co-chief along with Caroline Kennedy of Obama's vice-presidential selection process and, like Obama, is a fellow alumnus of Columbia University in New York, the report said. [Thanks yahoo]


Wanda Sykes on Gay Marriage

Funny vid I found on Afrobella's site (btw Ditto on protesting the ban of alcohol after 9pm, lol):

Ignore everything in this photo except......


Obama's First Weekly Address!!!


He's so thin, hope the White House Chef hooks him up. Still love him though.

New Honor: Barack Obama Makes it to Dickipedia!

Didn't know whether to be offended or humored. I think I'll take the latter, I love sarcasm. Please scroll to the bottom and see "Personal Life." Funny ish.

Check it out HERE.

Wanda Sykes says she's "Proud to be Gay"

Shocking?! But good for her (singing Rihanna's "Live Your Life"). The recent Proposition 8 ban has led many people to become vocal about gay rights and I applaud her for speaking out. However, I hope this revelation doesn't come with tremendous backlash from the black community. For some reason, I'm assuming religious reasons?, black people are about 20 years behind the gay rights movement. I just think this is strange because in most black communities pregnant kids, drug dealers, and ex-convicts get more respect than homosexuals (wtf?).

Regardless of YOUR moral beliefs, please realize that you are not God and that each and every person will one day be judged based on their own merit. So take time and worry about yourself. I'm not gay, but I've never heard of that being my golden ticket for getting into heaven (if you can find this verse I may budge on this stance, because I'd like that golden ticket), so I don't know why straight people feel the need to stand on some pedestal and preach the "word" here....I'm just sayin' lets move forward.

Source: Huffington Post


Pic of the Day - "How to Let Yourself Enjoy this Historic Moment"

Click to enlarge:


Caption it!


Black, black, blackity black

This video is hilarious and SO TRUE. Enjoy:


Celebration in Washington, DC

These youtube videos still make me cry (can't believe it's been a week since election day). Here are the crowds that were outside on Election Night. Fun times. And check the diversity. I am SO proud to be an American right now!

U Street:

16th Street - Outside the White House at 3a.m. November 5th:

But What Happens Now? Well, lets see (note: this is a video from my super republican co-worker - HATER, lol):

Obama Win Causes Obsessive Supporters To Realize How Empty Their Lives Are


Will There be an "Acting Obama" Effect?

Interesting article. Here's an excerpt:

"For years, some scholars (including Roland Fryer) have argued that one factor in the black-white education gap is the “acting white” phenomenon, in which some students, as Fryer and David Austen-Smith wrote:
… have tremendous disincentives to invest in particular behaviors (i.e., education, ballet, etc.) due to the fact that they may be deemed a person who is trying to act like a white person (a k a “selling-out”). Such a label, in some neighborhoods, can carry penalties that range from being deemed a social outcast, to being beaten or killed.
If you believe in the “acting white” effect — not everyone does — then should you also believe in the potential of an “acting Obama” effect? That is, if “acting white” means that certain kinds of accomplishment are considered off-limits by certain kinds of black kids, will the fact that a black man (O.K., a mixed-race man) is now president of the United States change the perception of what it means to be accomplished, and what it means to be black?"

Check out some of the comments and let us know what you think?


We Did It!!!!!!

Buppies, I'm speechless. This rarely happens, but after partying all night, I'm still completely ecstatic! At this point i cannot describe the feeling I had when I saw the final results on the screen. With a house full of guests on pins and needles, seeing that shared elation was just AWESOME!!!!

And to put icing on the cake!, I rode down to the white house at about 1:30a.m. only to encounter deadlocked traffic with people (black, white, hispanic, middle-eastern) all crowded in the streets, screaming, giving high-fives, playing drums, singing, crying, hugging, and honking horns - it was surreal. Once I can put my words together, I'll try to add what I thought about at that moment. Until then, wow. Just wow.

President Barack HUSSEIN Obama!:

Take a look back? Well lets,


Hilarious Palin Vid

Ok, I know I'll catch a little flack for this, but ah well. I'm going INSANE this last few days counting down to election night and needed a laugh. It's hilarious:


OHN! - Obama Likeness found Hanging from 2 College Campuses...

I won't waste too many words on this ignorance right now. Kentucky will be Kentucky... Am I outraged? Yes. What can I do about it? Vote.


Caption It!

**Excuse the blur**

Now check out me, BrightStarr, Tasha, and T bringing you that Hump Day sexxxxy! that's me in the leopard print dress! Pour me some of that Moe!!!
thanks http://youknowyoudeadazzwrong.blogspot.com/ Why am I addicted to this! ew!

Stark Differences Between Obama and McCain Supporters

I found this article in the Huffington Post today and had to share.

Here are some excerpts:
"The fundamental difference between the internet left and the internet right? The cyber-right is not campaigning hard for a John McCain in whom they have great faith to bring about real change. They're not arguing for public policy or for humane governance. They're just fighting against the other guy. They're led in that direction by an increasingly desperate and angry McCain/Palin camp.

The cyber-left is campaigning hard for something. They are for Barack Obama."

From a white, middle-class Florida voter:
"...I've got a wife and two kids. Because the kids had no school today, I took a vacation day from work and took the kids downtown to vote early. Fifty-nine minutes later, two smiling children and I proudly sported 'I Voted' stickers.

"But I didn't vote for Obama.

"I voted for my ancestors, who believed in the promise of this country and came with nothing as immigrants. I voted for my parents, who taught in the public schools for decades. I voted for Steve, an acquaintance of mine from Kentucky (killed by an IED two years ago in Iraq). I voted for Shawn, another who's been to Iraq twice and Afghanistan once, and who'll be going back to Afghanistan again soon -- and whose family earned eleven bucks a month too much to qualify for food stamps when the war started. I voted for April, the only African American girl in my high school -- it was years before it occurred to me how different her experience of our school must have been. I voted for my college friends who are Christian, Jewish, Mormon, and yes -- Muslim. I voted for my grandfathers, who worked hard in factories and died too young. I voted for the plumber who worked on my house, because I want him to get a REAL tax break. I voted for four little angels from Birmingham. I voted for a bunch of dead white men who, although personally flawed, were willing to pledge their lives, fortunes and sacred honor, and used a time of great crisis to expand freedom rather than suspend it. I voted for all those people and more, and I voted for all of you, too.

"But mostly, I voted selfishly: I voted for two little kids, one who has ballet in an hour and one who has baseball practice at the same time. I voted for a world where they can be confident that their government will represent the best that is in this country and that will, in turn, demand the best of them

"I voted for a government that will be respected in the world. I voted for an economy that will reward work above guile. I voted for everything I believe in. Sure, I filled in the circle next to the name Obama, but it wasn't him I was voting for -- it was every single one of us and [for] those I love most of all."

From PJ Locascio, a sixteen year old junior at Heritage High School in Lynchburg, VA. He's not old enough to vote yet but, apparently, he's old enough to have received an "Obama is the antichrist" email. PJ chose to join the cyber-campaign and wrote, in response to that horrific email:

"This is one of the most absurd and racist things I have ever seen. You would rather believe that he, Sen. Obama, is the 'antichrist' than believe he's simply the better candidate. It's definitely not funny because a lot of voting-eligible Americans actually do think he's Muslim or the antichrist...This was all done by the Republican agenda that continues to try to make Americans...believe that he's...out to destroy America; or that he is a socialist [who] will ruin the fabric of democracy...Anyone who believes this or passes this along...is terribly misinformed...it's what's called running a 'Fear campaign'...This kind of campaign is very dangerous...Every single one of you is old enough to think for yourself...Next election, when we are finally old enough to vote, I really hope and encourage you to examine both of the candidates meticulously, without partisanship and really check the facts...be your own person."

Soooooo true. If you agree check out some conservative blogs like the Drudge Report, and see some of the comments that you'll see from so called McCain supporters (they sound more like Obama bashers than anything) and you'll be apalled. Well maybe not, I'm sure you've seen and heard it all at this point...*sigh*

Exploiting Blacks in the Media

I'm SO tired of articles and news stories like this. Can we please keep this conversation on the blogosphere, barbershops, and nail salons please? And if you are so inclined to do an interview, please at least look semi-decent. I'm just sayin...


Please GTFO and VOTE!

I'm SO SINCERE about this - I don't care how cold it is, how long the line is, make sure your vote is counted.

Man Shoots Teens Attempting to Vandalize McCain/Palin Sign

Another example proving that McPalin supporters are certifiably INSANE. I mean WTF! I understand they're on your yard, but yelling or running outside would probably suffice.

OH HELL NO! - Beyonce Remix

Um...how can I say this? Can't. Just watch:

This is hilarious. I won't hate on them though, lol. I put five on it that they're in ATL.

Thanks for putting me on to this B. Scott!

Caption It! Winner: T

Girl in the back: "I wonder if I could whisper in his ear that those are panties without being tackled by the secret service."

Check T out at Tea and Such!

Love It! Obama in the Rain

I'm sorry - but there is something about a man who will follow through - rain, sleet, or snow. Michelle was even out in the rain! I LOVE IT!

One rainstorm, two campaigns and two responses

Wearing jeans, white sneakers and an insulated windbreaker, Barack Obama delivered his stump speech this morning in a chilly, steady rain in Chester, Pa.

"A little bit of rain never hurt anybody," Obama said, surveying the soaking, umbrella-covered crowd at Widener University, occasionally rubbing his hands together for warmth and squinting through the raindrops.

Obama took the stage less than an hour after the McCain campaign announced it was postponing a rally at 1:15 p.m. in Quakertown, Pa., about one hour north of Chester, "due to weather."

The Obama campaign considered moving its event inside, but couldn't find an appropriate venue, an aide said. An estimated 9,000 people turned out. [source]

photo credit: nypost


Conservatives for Obama

Love this. Great talking points to persuade your Republican "friends" to vote for the best candidate (against party lines):

Oh, and Black men against Obama (ugh)

Breaking News: Obama Assassination Foiled

Officials said Cowart and Schlesselman stated that they would be willing to die during their attempt.

According to the complaint, the defendants further discussed their killing spree to include targeting a predominately African American school, decapitating 102 black people, and to continue their spree until their final act of violence, which would be to attempt to assassinate Obama.The pair was arrested on October 22, 2008 by the Crockett County, Tennessee Sheriff's Department.Cowart and Schlesselman appeared in court Monday, and are scheduled to appear again at a detention hearing on October 30th.

Two men have been charged with making threats against presidential candidate Barack Obama.

Daniel Cowart, 20, of Bells, Tennessee and Paul Schlesselman, 18, of West Helena were charged in a federal complaint last Friday of illegal possession of a sawed-off shotgun, conspiracy to rob a federal firearms licensee, and making threats against a major candidate for the Office of President.

According to the complaint, Cowart and Schlesselman met via the Internet through a mutual friend last month, with both men claiming to have very strong beliefs regarding "White Power" and "Skinhead" philosophies.

The complaint said the pair discussed robbing a gun shop in order to gather weapons and ammunition to use in a 'killing spree.'

On October 20, 2008, Cowart allegedly traveled from Tennessee to Arkansas to pick up Schlesselman in order to carry out their plan.

Source [MSNBC] Stay Tuned for Updates. As soon as I find pictures of the Skinheads from this story, I will post them. In the meantime, check out these below from the DNC plot.

These photos are of 2 guys who were going to attempt and do this at the DNC.... Don't they remind you of those smelly trashy kids you knew growing up who had the full confederate flag wardrobe?? Not to take away from the seriousness of this, I really bet you they had mangy dogs running all in their house. gross.

Natural Hair Care 101: Product Review

Hola Buppies! So far it's been almost 1 year since I've gone completely natural (after a couple failed attempts) and my hair has grown like CRAZY (almost shoulder length already). So as you can imagine, it's been quite an experiment with different hair products and techniques to keep my hair looking its best. It has to be one of the most humbling and rewarding experiences to go from shoulder length relaxed hair, to no hair, to reintroducing yourself to your natural hair texture.

So today I'll just give a brief synopsis of the products that have worked best for me. If you have any feedback, please share with the community!

1. I'm using most of the Miss Jessie's line: specifically the Curly Pudding daily (and Baby Buttercreme every other day), which keeps my hair moisturized for straight out of the shower curls.

2. I'm also using the Miss Jessie's curly meringue for my straw sets and two strand twist outs. I don't necessarily like the smell but it works like a charm. I despise hair spritz or setting lotion or gels because it hardens my hair and dries it out, this is a great alternative. It gives a slight hold that actually doesn't dry your hair out or leave residue. Good deal. (btw, I also add Carol's Daughter Tui Jojoba & Shea Butter Sheen as a finisher for my twist out styles).
*Note with the MJ products, be sure not to use it too heavily (I've been there and it looks like I have a gherri curl! - not a good look unless your hair is still short and manageable).

3. I know it sounds like I'm getting paid by Miss Jessie's but for real, you MUST do the rapid recovery treatment once/week. Even if you don't try ANY of the other MJ products, this one is magic. Made with avacado cream and shea butter, this product will transform dull, matted, dry hair back into shiny manageable curls in a matter of minutes (this chick should give me a job). To further extend the benefits of this deep conditioner, you can try an overhead hair dryer for the best results. But if you're anti-heat products like I am - add it to your wet shampoo'd hair and add a shower cap before you shower. The steam from a 15 minute shower will be more than enough heat for it to work.

4. One of the main reasons I went natural is for hair health. I'd been noticing thinning around my hair line and breakage along the ends of my hair. However, during this past year I have consistently been using a product recommended by my stylist, and it's AWESOME. It's called "Ces Cheveux Hair & Scalp Revitalizer" It's pretty difficult to find, but worth paying shipping and buying online. Luckily I have a store a few miles away that carries it. I attribute the thickening and growth of my hair mostly to this product - the rest is just genes.

5. Okay, now for my regular shampoo and conditioner (I wash my hair about 3 times/week and rinse daily). For shampoo I alternate between Nioxin Cleanser and Nexxus Botanoil Treatment Shampoo. For conditioner I use Nioxin Scalp Therapy and occassionally Hair Rules Nourishment Leave-in Conditioner.

Well I know this sounds like a LOT of products, but I'm still testing the waters to see what really works best. I'm also playing a lot with accessories and styles and will share that along with my daily regimen soon.

Here are some of my questions to you natural ladies (and fellas):

  • What are some of YOUR favorite products?
  • Do you wrap your hair in a silk scarf at night? I don't unless I have a new style...should I?
  • Do you sleep on silk pillow cases/sheets? - I don't...probably should.
  • Do you pre-poo (condition your hair before shampooing)? - I do this about half the time.
  • What has been your largest problems with your hair since your transition? - Mine has been moisture! Not to mention matting when I don't stick to my regular regimen or after certain styles.
  • How often do you get your hair trimmed? - I used to every 4-6 weeks, but can't remember the last time I had a trim. I asked for one the last couple times at the salon (which is like once every 2 months now and they said I didn't need it). Not sure if this natural hair salon is looking out for hair health - shouldn't I have a trim by now?
Ok, I guess that's enough for now, lol.


B. Scott's Reaction to 'Scarlet Takes a Tumble'

In case you haven't seen the newest youtube sensation "Scarlet Takes a Tumble," - check out B. Scott's hilarious reaction video:

LOL, I LOVE B. Scott!

Dressing Your Pet for Halloween?

Okay, I'm on the fence with this decision. I have a small Yorkie who is my baby, should I dress him up for Halloween? I mean I've seen some dogs in some insanely hilarious halloween costumes, but the dogs always look severely depressed. It just seems wrong.

He likes wearing shirts (mostly because he thinks he's about to go outside), so maybe I'll just let him wear his Chicago Bears Jersey? Good enough?

Child's Body found in Hudson Case

"CHICAGO, Illinois (CNN) -- The Cook County Medical Examiner's office is investigating reports on Monday of a child's body found in an SUV in Chicago, a spokesperson for the office told CNN.

The Chicago Tribune -- citing the medical examiner's office -- reported that the body of a boy was found Monday morning in a white SUV connected with Julian King, the missing nephew of Oscar-winning actress Jennifer Hudson.

Police issued an Amber Alert for Julian, 7, who has been missing since Hudson's mother and brother were found dead in their home Friday.

Over the weekend, Oscar-winning actress Hudson offered a $100,000 reward for the safe return of her nephew.

A spokeswoman for Hudson confirmed the reward, the latest development in the investigation of the shooting deaths of Hudson's relatives and abduction of her nephew, Julian King.

"Please keep praying for our family and that we get Julian King back home safely," Hudson said in a posting on her MySpace page Sunday. "If anyone has any information about his whereabouts please contact the authorities immediately."

Hudson also posted two pictures of her nephew wearing the brown-and-orange striped polo shirt he was last seen in.

Earlier, Hudson viewed the bodies of her mother, Darnell Donerson, and brother, Jason Hudson, the Cook County medical examiner's office told CNN Sunday. They were found shot to death Friday in their South Side Chicago home." -Read More Here

Wow, my prayers go out to the families affected by this devastating loss. And according to reports, the assailant is possibly her own brother-in-law who is an ex-convict. OMG! Can you imagine?

Don Imus Endorses John McCain - *crickets*

Anyone, anyone?

*listen to the last 20 seconds, lol.


Love It! Wassssup Obama Edition!


And for the old school flash back:

OMG - like forreal - I really love this.


Daily Prayer: Mccain Volunteer Attacked - B carved in Face? - FALSE!!!

*UPDATE* --> http://kdka.com/local/attack.McCain.Bloomfield.2.847628.html

Dayuuuuuuuum. True? Untrue? WTF? This is terrible! Either way! This story is horrible! Either way - it's HORRIBLE.

According to the Pittsburgh Tribune-Review (By way of Pittsburgh Channel), Ashley Todd, of College Station, Texas, was at the cash machine just before 9 p.m. on Wednesday when a man approached her and put a knife to her throat.

The Tribune reported that Todd, who is not familiar with the area, drove to a friend's house and called police.

According to friends, she is in Pittsburgh volunteering for the McCain-Palin campaign.

Pittsburgh police spokeswoman Diane Richard told Channel 4 Action News that the robber took $60 from the woman, then became upset when he saw a McCain bumper sticker on the victim's car.

The McCain camp told CBS station KDKA-TV that the victim is a Republican from Texas

According to a campaign spokesperson, after seeing her bumper sticker supporting McCain, the suspect said, 'Oh you're with McCain, you're with the McCain campaign? I'm going to teach you a lesson.'"

The attacker then proceeded to punch and kick the victim, before utilizing the knife to carve the letter "B" into her face, presumably for "Barack" Obama.

The attack occurred outside the view of the bank's surveillance cameras and the unidentified victim refused medical treatment after the assault.

In an official statement the McCain campaign says: "We're shaken up by this. It's sick and disgusting."

Governor Sarah Palin reportedly spoke with the victim by phone.

The Obama-Biden campaign released a statement, commenting on the attack. The statement said "Our thoughts and prayers are with the young woman for her to make a speedy recovery, and we hope that the person who perpetrated this crime is swiftly apprehended and brought to justice."

The assailant is still at large. Police tell TMZ.com that all they have is a description.

The assailant is described as a dark-skinned black man, 6 feet 4 inches tall, 200 pounds with a medium build, short black hair and brown eyes. He was wearing dark colored jeans, a black undershirt and black shoes.

I totally don't believe the news all the time - I'm a skeptic. In fact, when the girl down here at GWU said people were putting swastikas on her door and it was her ass writing swastikas all on her door and ish, I was too through!


Palin Endorses Barack Obama

Check it out here. Who would've thought?

Caption IT!


and in the meantime, check out me and my fellow buppie chick, Brightstarr, bringing you the sexy!!!!!!
Happy Humpday! *muah*

Preserving the Sexy: Diddy Buys Enyce!

Continuing to expand his empire and business ventures, hip-hop mogul Diddy has officially announced his purchase of urban clothing company, Enyce.

After receiving monumental success since the launch of his popular signature fashion label, Sean John, Diddy has resorted to his video blog to inform the public about his acquisition of yet another company.

"Your boy Sean Combs, aka Sean John, has purchased a new clothing brand called Enyce," he said while wearing the a jacket with the company's signature. "I bought this brand to add to my portfolio, for my mini-fashion empire that I'm trying to start. I'm an entrepreneur. I'm from the same place just like you."

Diddy also detailed where his passion to begin a line of fashion companies stemmed from.

"I had a dream to start a fashion empire, so like, ten years ago I started with Sean John and then, I bought in to Zac Posen," he added. "And now to diversify my portfolio, today I made a smart, business move. A shrewd business move."

Calling himself the "black [Warren] Buffet," Diddy went on to justify his purchase as a well calculated business transaction due to today's changing economy.

"In this time of depression and recession, we have to do things that are smart as business people. And I'm sending this out to all my up-and-coming business people, I'm here to share some insight on what I did. I feel like there are some hard times that we're facing so we gotta buckle down but there also opportunities in this beautiful country."

Using the same technique he's used on his hit singles, Diddy plans to reformat the clothing brand to his liking.

"I'm the king of the remix," he said. "If y'all wondering what I'm gonna do, I'm gonna remix the brand and make it hit like I make my records. I'mma put my marketing power behind it and do my thing. The brand as you know it today isn't the brand as you're gonna know it six months from now. So um, thank y'all for your support with Sean John, with Zac Posen and now with Enyce." Thanks SOHH


OH HELL NO! - Girl with Tourette's Syndrome yells Nigger! WTF

I promise she just needs her ass whooped, tourette's my ass.

Thanks Shabooty.

Nas Vs. Jay-Z (Election 08 Edition)

Who's endorsement carries the most weight in the "hood?" (Personally, I would've preferred Common or Mos Def, but they will do for now).




Latest Conservative to Endorse Obama

Michael Smerconish, a Philadelphia conservative writer and radio host, went against his party line by endorsing Obama over McCain in Sunday's Philadelphia Inquirer. Smerconish made this choice by using five categories to judge Obama and McCain in.

In the end, Smerconish chose that Obama was better than McCain on the issues of terrorism, the economy, the running mates, opportunity and hope. Obama has positioned himself as better in the economy, in his running mate, in opportunity and hope from day one, but Obama has rarely been chosen as someone who can outdo McCain on terrorism.

Source: Associated Content

I ROTFL Everytime I See This



Women for McCain


Venus and Serena: Fabulous.

I love these two women, not only b/c they rule the tennis courts, but also because they rule it by their own set of rules! I love how they go against the grain with fashion in tennis - and it looks like Harper's Bazaar agrees! Check the pics! These are 2 amazing women!

Powell endorses Obama.

Enough said. Since you all know the story, I'll leave it at that. However, I found this photo and caption to be perfectly fitting.

Social Studies: The Black Tax

Hey guys..... I too have had quite a long weekend... I went to a BEAUTIFUL wedding in Atlanta - which is my old stomping ground. SPELLLLLLLLLLMAN!

I know I'm harsh for calling the chick in this story a coon. Alright - I did it and it's out of my system.

Anyway - I was in the airport restaurant and I became more and more frustrated by the minute. I thought I'd have a quick breakfast this morning at Brews and Blues, which is in terminal T of the ATL airport. Well - I go in, say hello to the waitress and just kind of sit there. I was thinking, okay - she knows I need a damn menu, so what the hell..... but I just sat it out. I wait about 5 minutes and say, "excuse me, I'd like to have a menu" and she slides one over to me. Alright... it's 8 in the morning, I'm not a morning person - so I'm not mad yet.

Well - I order my food when she walks over because not once did she say, "good morning, can I take your order" or whatever you are supposed to say to prompt me to tell you want I want to eat or drink. Still - when she kind of just stood there, I took that as the cue to place my food order, "scrambled eggs with cheese, bacon, and toast." She walks away - brings back the food and did not give me a fork or whatev. I asked for the fork and she lays it by my food. Alright - at this point, I'm not thinking BLACK TAX!!! Instead, I'm thinking - this is terrible service, but whatever. My food sucked, but still - it was terrible service and I as just going to roll with it; I was ready to get back to DC anyway.

About 10 minutes later, a few white guys walk in. She goes over to them and wishes them a good morning and asks if she could take their orders. She gave a few jokes to them so they could all get a laugh in and she was just overall pleasant! I was like wtf? Maybe it was just me - maybe I was giving off negative energy. My flight didn't leave for another hour, so I decided to sit around and observe! A black man sat right beside me and got the same cold cold treatment as I did. He asked for cheese on his eggs and she was so rude to him! WTF. After I saw her flip the script again for her white co-worker, I was like daaaaaaamn. She was even cold to the ethiopian chicks who walked in. However, she kept wiping off the table for the white guys and refilling their drinks. Ask me if I got a refill? lol. NOPE! Seriously - I felt obligated to tip her, but I only left a dollar, which I thought was generous.

So - my friends, have you all experienced anything like this from our own people? What's the damn problem? Let's talk about it.


Chillin' HARD this weekend...will return soon...


Nervous - I need to go to sleep...


Will the Real Todd Palin Please Stand Up?

I hope this story BLOWS up, especially considering his AIP associations. I mean he spent 50% of his time directly involved in state affairs (which is unethical and illegal if he does not hold a government clearance). This man needs to be properly vetted - immediately.

Why does this have me ROTFL?!

Please tell me if this is an effective ad. Try to be objective.

"I have a plan. Your savings - we'll rebuild them. Your investments - they'll grow again." OMG! Too funny.


Debate Reaction

gotta love this photo

First of all, this is not an intellectual commentary on the debate in the least. This is pure disappointment in the tone of the rhetoric from the McCain campaign. I was definitely on the edge for the entire 90 minutes. But the thing that really hurt and disappointed me was that Obama had to directly address the comments made by Lewis, which in my point of view, was a simple observation. It's clear to see that the tone of McCain's rallies have taken on a dangerous tone. A racial, violent, and incendiary tone.

The words "KILL HIM!" and "Terrorist!" were shouted loud enough for McCain and Palin to hear. The real topic that should have been addressed is why did they allow it? Why didn't they repudiate THOSE comments immediately and in front of that very crowd?

However, for Obama to have to repeat those hateful comments nearly brought tears to my eyes (especially since McCain was smirking and basically laughing at the sheer thought). I'll just say I was basically done right then and there.

Long story short, according to CNN and CBS Obama won by a margin of over 20%. That's right Obama has won all 3 debates by simply talking about the ISSUES and maintaining a professional and "presidential" demeanor. Classic.

What did you think?

P.S. - I better not hear SHIT else about Joe Plumber.

Oh and from Fox News *new*:

Debate Prep

Drinking game essentials here. My beverage of choice will be cabernet. I hope I don't die. Wish me luck...

Just for Fun - at the Expense of Mrs. Palin

This site is pretty funny. I used to be hooked on caveman's crib, but this site is even better! Click around and enjoy. The site will be updated everyday until election day. Pay close attention - it's hilarious.

Vote for John McCain - a PSA by Hayden Panettiere

See more Hayden Panettiere videos at Funny or Die

Nobody f*cks with John McCain!

Make-Believe Maverick

A closer look at the life and career of John McCain reveals a disturbing record of recklessness and dishonesty

At Fort McNair, an army base located along the Potomac River in the nation's capital, a chance reunion takes place one day between two former POWs. It's the spring of 1974, and Navy commander John Sidney McCain III has returned home from the experience in Hanoi that, according to legend, transformed him from a callow and reckless youth into a serious man of patriotism and purpose. Walking along the grounds at Fort McNair, McCain runs into John Dramesi, an Air Force lieutenant colonel who was also imprisoned and tortured in Vietnam.

McCain is studying at the National War College, a prestigious graduate program he had to pull strings with the Secretary of the Navy to get into. Dramesi is enrolled, on his own merit, at the Industrial College of the Armed Forces in the building next door.

There's a distance between the two men that belies their shared experience in North Vietnam — call it an honor gap. Like many American POWs, McCain broke down under torture and offered a "confession" to his North Vietnamese captors. Dramesi, in contrast, attempted two daring escapes. For the second he was brutalized for a month with daily torture sessions that nearly killed him. His partner in the escape, Lt. Col. Ed Atterberry, didn't survive the mistreatment. But Dramesi never said a disloyal word, and for his heroism was awarded two Air Force Crosses, one of the service's highest distinctions. McCain would later hail him as "one of the toughest guys I've ever met."

On the grounds between the two brick colleges, the chitchat between the scion of four-star admirals and the son of a prizefighter turns to their academic travels; both colleges sponsor a trip abroad for young officers to network with military and political leaders in a distant corner of the globe.

"I'm going to the Middle East," Dramesi says. "Turkey, Kuwait, Lebanon, Iran."

"Why are you going to the Middle East?" McCain asks, dismissively.

"It's a place we're probably going to have some problems," Dramesi says.

"Why? Where are you going to, John?"

"Oh, I'm going to Rio."

"What the hell are you going to Rio for?"

McCain, a married father of three, shrugs.

"I got a better chance of getting laid."

Dramesi, who went on to serve as chief war planner for U.S. Air Forces in Europe and commander of a wing of the Strategic Air Command, was not surprised. "McCain says his life changed while he was in Vietnam, and he is now a different man," Dramesi says today. "But he's still the undisciplined, spoiled brat that he was when he went in."


This is the story of the real John McCain, the one who has been hiding in plain sight. It is the story of a man who has consistently put his own advancement above all else, a man willing to say and do anything to achieve his ultimate ambition: to become commander in chief, ascending to the one position that would finally enable him to outrank his four-star father and grandfather.

In its broad strokes, McCain's life story is oddly similar to that of the current occupant of the White House. John Sidney McCain III and George Walker Bush both represent the third generation of American dynasties. Both were born into positions of privilege against which they rebelled into mediocrity. Both developed an uncanny social intelligence that allowed them to skate by with a minimum of mental exertion. Both struggled with booze and loutish behavior. At each step, with the aid of their fathers' powerful friends, both failed upward. And both shed their skins as Episcopalian members of the Washington elite to build political careers as self-styled, ranch-inhabiting Westerners who pray to Jesus in their wives' evangelical churches.

In one vital respect, however, the comparison is deeply unfair to the current president: George W. Bush was a much better pilot. [Thanks Rolling Stone: read more here]


The Black Guy (James T. Harris) at the Mccain Rally: Essence Article

Let's all bow our heads and pray.
Please share your thoughts

[thanks essence.com]
Last week, James T. Harris went from being an average guy to one of the most reviled men in Black America. At a Waukesha, Wisconsin, town hall rally with Senator John McCain and Governor Sarah Palin on Thursday, the African-American radio host from Milwaukee pleaded with McCain to step up his attacks against Barack Obama. “We have the good Reverend Wright. We have [the Reverend Michael L.] Pfleger,” Harris said to the cheers of thousands of White audience members. “I am begging you, sir. I am begging you. Take it to him.” In a show of true solidarity, Harris, 44, and the Republican nominee then hugged.

As this moment spread throughout the media, many African-Americans likened his impassioned remarks to racial betrayal and subservient shuffling. Theories circulated that Harris was a plant for the McCain campaign. ESSENCE.com talked with Harris, who describes his political beliefs as being “right of Rush,” about how he ended up at the town hall, receiving hate mail, and how he really feels about that hug with John McCain.

ESSENCE.COM: How are you doing?
JAMES T. HARRIS: Girl, I’m getting my butt spanked today!

ESSENCE.COM: I can imagine. You’ve generated a lot of buzz. What attention have you been getting since the rally?

HARRIS: I’ve heard from Americans of African descent, scattered across the fruited plain, to the tune of about 1,000 or more. I’d say 99 percent of it has been straight up hate on a level that I find a bit overwhelming. They’re coming through my blog, Facebook, e-mail and my business site.

ESSENCE.COM: What are people saying?
HARRIS: Let me just pull some up now. [Reading] “Hey man, are you the plant that sucked up to McCain? What were you thinking? You should be ashamed of yourself.” “Are you that self-loathing bastard?” This is just at random. “You are lost, sad and worthy of pity. I will not hate you; I will call you by your rightful name: House Nigger.” And that was mild! [Laughs.]

ESSENCE.COM: Have you gotten positive feedback from people applauding you for standing up for your beliefs?
HARRIS: I would say the mail coming in is 12 to 1—for every 12 negative, I get one positive. There’s been some really heartfelt stuff I’ve read from people across the nation. A number of these e-mails say I spoke for millions of conservatives who are frustrated, like I am, that Senator McCain isn’t engaging Barack Obama on these issues. I’m getting letters like, “You said what many of us have been dying to say.” That’s encouraging. That’s coming from someone who’s my ideological brother. What I find shocking are the people who say they are my brothers in race, who are upset to say the least.

ESSENCE.COM: Going back to those negative comments, a lot of people do think you were paid by somebody to say those remarks. How did get to participate in the town hall event?
HARRIS: Through my public speaking work I’ve had an opportunity to speak to the Republican Party in Waukesha on two occasions. And my radio show is popular in that area, so people know who I am. I contacted the Party in Waukesha and said, “If you have two tickets, I would love to be there to show my support.” And so they had me pick up tickets, and my wife and I went to the event. While waiting in line I was standing right next to the parents of the chairman of the Republican Party of Wisconsin, whose wife was my son’s first grade teacher. This is by pure coincidence. My wife notices her name on the envelope, and we start laughing and talking. Now, the father has health issues so they called their son and said, “We can’t wait in this long line.” And when the security guard came to get them, the father said, “That’s James T. Harris.” The security guard said, “Come with me.” So, we walked in and we sat in reserved seats. I said, “You can seat me anywhere you want,” but seeing as we were two of only four or five Black people out of thousands of people there, they strategically place people where they’ll be seen. There’s nothing new in that. So that’s how we ended up in that area. I had no idea I’d be that close. I didn’t go into that event knowing I would speak and ask a question. When I read stuff about me being a plant, and that I’m speaking on behalf of the McCain camp, it’s laughable! There was no plan to this.

ESSENCE.COM: At the town hall you said McCain should talk more about Obama’s connection to the Reverend Jeremiah Wright. But last spring you could barely turn on the news without seeing Rev. Wright. Don’t you think there’s been enough attention given to that relationship?
HARRIS: Again, this is further evidence that this thing wasn’t scripted. I thought I had said something different. I wanted to say Barney Frank and Harold Raines, because I believe their fingerprints are all over this economic demise. These people were in my brain, and yet I didn’t articulate it. I went blank. It’s not just Rev. Wright and Reverend Pfleger. It sounded like I was saying, “Bring up all these old things and beat him over the head with it.” Well, you should, in conjunction with the new names that have come up over the past few weeks. I’m sitting in this town hall meeting, and Senator McCain is talking about what he’s going to do about global warming and all these other things. At one point I just raised my hand and said, “I want to know when are you going to take it to Barack Obama?”

ESSENCE.COM: McCain has already addressed a lot of these issues, including Bill Ayers and ACORN, in campaign attack ads. What specifically do you think he should do, to “take it to Obama,” that hasn’t already been done?
HARRIS: That’s different. That’s ads. Barack Obama said yesterday that, “McCain hasn’t said this to my face.” You know what? He’s right! Forget all these campaign ads. Say it to his face. I said, “We have one debate left, and we have a few weeks left; I am begging you take it to Obama!” That was the context. Not “Massa, please. Massa, please.” That wasn’t it. That’s the context that’s being looped on CNN and on blog sites. Nobody played the full clip. Maybe I’m just kind of jaded because of all I’ve been going through. I’m like, “Oh my God, this isn’t right.” I really do understand how this is an emotional thing, and people think Stepin Fetchit. But that wasn’t the case at all. I don’t think I carried myself like that, and I don’t think my question was whining.

ESSENCE.COM: So, let’s talk about that hug…
HARRIS: That’s another thing I want to clear up. When he came over to me and was bending down, I was like, “What, is he going to hug me?” He didn’t. He whispered something in my ear. He actually just put his hand on my shoulder. But in that moment I was like, “What am I going to do? I can’t not hug him. I can’t pull away. But if I hug him it’s going to look crazy! This is like Sammy Davis, Jr., with Nixon!” But he wasn’t trying to hug me. He just leaned down and whispered something in my ear.

ESSENCE.COM: What did he say?
HARRIS: I’m not going to tell you. That was between the Senator and me. After the next debate I’ll be willing to talk about it.

ESSENCE.COM: The Obama campaign says personal attacks are a distraction from the issues. Why do you think it’s so important to go negative on Obama, rather than focus on what McCain will do for America?
HARRIS: Something happened in Wisconsin, because for the first time in this election, Senator McCain came face to face with his angry base. We’re frustrated with the fact that John McCain didn’t hold up his part. You can talk about the issues and global warming and how you’re going to have buyouts for homeowners. We are getting decimated, and we believe it’s because you’re not fighting for the values that you say you believe in. You fought in Vietnam, you fought against corruption, and you reached across the aisle. So why, in the final stages, are you capitulating? That was the mood that was in the town hall meeting.

ESSENCE.COM: Speaking of the mood there, along with other recent McCain rallies, it seemed very angry and hostile. At some rallies people have shouted that Obama is a terrorist. How do you feel about this being the face of Republican voters right now?
HARRIS: That didn’t take place at the town hall, but I am aware of some stuff that happened in Ohio. I have to be honest with you, after the last 24 hours, no one can roll up on me and talk about hatred and inciting violence after what I have experienced.

ESSENCE.COM: In your gut, who do you think is going to win?
HARRIS: John McCain. And, oh Lord, Lord, Lord, if that happens! As much as the followers of Obama are invested in this thing, it’s going to make Bush Derangement Syndrome look like a cold. There’s going to be severe backlash; people are going to lose their minds. Black people are going to say, “Voter suppression, voter fraud.” With the allegiance and almost worship of Barack Obama, I think if he loses it’s going to be very ugly.

ESSENCE.COM: Don’t you think it could be just as ugly if McCain loses?
HARRIS: No. If McCain loses, you know who conservatives are going to blame? McCain. You’re going to have people say, “Grandpa McCain lost this election!” People get emotional because they don’t see him running this race right, and that’s what McCain saw Thursday night.

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